Here are a few of the temptations controlling in-laws find so hard to resist: 1. Some in-laws control indirectly and some do it in very obvious ways.But there is one thing that all controlling in-laws have in common.The technique you will be using to stop controlling behavior is from the Nicola Method, a series of techniques developed to give you language that takes you behind other peoples’ defenses.The sentences provided here are ones developed for use with controlling people.The method you will be using is from the Nicola Method, which is a series of non-confrontational techniques that work to lower conflict in any relationship.You will be given language that has been developed to work behind the scenes to allow you to change your relationship with your in-law into a respectful one, even if your in-law has been acting out towards you for years.
In order to zero in on the mechanics of this technique, we need to take a look at several types of controlling in-laws, each with a different motivation.We will be looking at three of the most common types to see how each of them reacts to the sentence you will be using to stop a subtle or indirectly controlling in-law. The mother-in-law who just can’t resist telling you what you should do was probably frustrated because she believes her cookies are good, and you should want yours to be good too.She knows she shouldn’t meddle, but she can’t help letting the comment slip out.When you use this sentence every time she slips, she will become more aware and learn to restrain herself from this type of behavior. The mother-in-law who insulted you in the heat of the moment probably has issues of her own that affect how she feels about you.She may have insecurity and problems with self-esteem that leave her chronically irritated.