It is based on the idea that women are more virtuous, more important than men. Don't even think of trying the converse male-biology-as-female-destiny approach.When the author says "most...", it is not a generalization, generalization would be "all..." and I have not found any generalization of this kind in the article. Male orgasm isn't associated with oxytocin release?! Oxytocin plays a couple of different essential roles in the process for men, so thanks for the link. Ruth was just trying to make a female-biology-as-male-destiny type of argument. Feminacentrism is another manifestation of Womenfirsters' power to define the agenda.It requires looking at all problems exclusively from women's perspective, or for the purpose of seeing how women are affected.If you are 45, divorced, into your career, already been there-done that with children and your hook-up agrees with your premise-we are talking an entirely different theme.No alcohol need be involved, just two grown ups having a casual, safe (and temporary) friendship. I am right in that same situation and finding anything useful about sex at post divorce(not by choice)is far and apart.That said, when it comes to sex, if it feels good do it (safely), but if it does not feel good then why bother?Women react differently when they are in a marriage/long term relationship and they are seeing other people.
Perhaps they can, but women ARE different than men.
When women have sex, oxytocin gets released because of the evolutionary drive to attach to someone who may be the potential father of a possible child. Men's bodies release testosterone which drives them off to go find some other women with whom to spread their biological material. Whatever works between consenting adults is not to be judged by me.
Evolution is not switched off because the pill, IUD, condoms and all other forms of contraception came into existence. So it seems that biology grows strings when women have sex. Of course, being higher order beings, we can control our emotions and our biological urges. And the impact of wanting to bond with someone who does not want to bond can leave women feeling disappointed, confused and sometimes hurt. However, from my own personal experience, most women cannot have a sexual encounter and not feel hurt if a man does not call again and is clear he has not intention to do so.
When comparing men and women, its important to emphasize that the real differences are experienced by different number of each sex.
For example, the age old complaint about double standards.